After talking with someone today, it dawned on me that sometimes we have to love ourselves enough to let people go. You’ve probably heard the saying that you have to love someone enough to let them go. The man that I was talking with had been through quite an ordeal with his divorce, and someone had given him that same guidance, but what do you do when a person is so toxic to you that you can’t let it go because you can’t bring yourself to love them that much? How do you let go when someone has caused so much damage that seeing them makes you sick to your stomach? The secret is that sometimes forgiveness has less to do with that other person and more to do with yourself.
I’ve been through a few rough times in this life, and there have been people that have done some not so great things to me. People have often asked how I can forgive those who hurt me so badly. It wasn’t easy, but I did it. I was angry for a long time, and I was even angry with God for a while, but I realized something. It hurt a great deal to be so angry and to hold onto all that pain. I wanted so badly to experience real love and joy, but to make space inside myself for new experiences and for those around me to show me what real love is also meant that I would have to get rid of some of that anger and pain. I realized that I deserved to feel real love and that it didn’t have to be a painful experience, if I would just let go of the past. I had to understand that it was actually myself that I needed to love enough in order to let go.
This is a life long lesson, at least for me anyway. I still get hurt and angry sometimes, and I find that I’m challenged to overcome the ghosts that try to haunt me. I sometimes find it difficult to fully let go and relax or laugh at things others find humorous. It’s almost like my face doesn’t know how to experience joy, even if I am happy on the inside. Maybe I haven’t gotten it all out yet. 😉
Are you having trouble trying to forgive or let go of something or someone? Maybe you just need to look at things a different way. Holding on to what they did to you doesn’t bother them as much as it bothers you. They might even get pleasure from knowing they still have power over you. Energetically, thinking of them in any way sends them your energy. Is it worth it to give part of yourself to that person or situation? You deserve all of yourself. Maybe it’s time to love yourself enough to let them go.
Founder, Angel Messenger
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