Honor Thy Children
(Save The World)
Years ago, in college, I wrote this paper called “Honor Thy Children” for a Psychology class. It was a big deal paper that took all semester to write, so when my professor told me I should have it published, I was both proud of my work and sad that such Truths needed to be published. The saddest part is that those truths still need to be brought to light, and that paper was unfortunately one of many things my family lost when our previous home flooded.
The overall premise of the paper was that Moses had lost or forgotten one of his tablets on his way down that mountain because commandment #11 should have been to Honor Thy Children. The paper was about child abuse and the severe failures of the child welfare system in my state (Michigan) at that time. You see, I wanted to know why I was failed so badly, and what I found was worse than anything I could have imagined.
Despite everything that happened to me, I know there are children who had it worse. I read about babies who had their feet dipped in boiling water because they would not stop crying, children who had been thrown down staircases and killed, children who had been beaten or even raped in the foster homes that were supposed to be saving them from the abuse they came from. As bad as I did have it, I had not been thrown down a set of stairs, and I had not been raped. I was both grateful it wasn’t worse for me and sickened by what was happening to these other children.
Part of the problem then (more than 20 years ago) was lack of funding from a government that didn’t see the importance of saving these children (in my opinion). I read about problems where case workers had too many cases to check up on children in their care and only one car to share among maybe four caseworkers to check on the ones they thought might not be okay. I’m sure things are different now. Maybe some things are better and some might be worse.
I do also know some foster parents who are wonderful and deserve to have children in their lives, though there are way more children in foster care waiting for loving homes than there are loving families opening their homes to those children. Many children in the system will age out never knowing what it is to be truly loved by a mother or a father. I personally know how that can affect a person, and that is truly heartbreaking.
Why Child Welfare IS Important
I believe child welfare is far more important than most people realize, and I’ve been saying this for years. I wish more people would HEAR ME!!! The souls of children are so much closer to their Divine energy than adult souls … and then society beats it out of them until they can no longer remember who they are. Well, that’s how it happened to me. It doesn’t always happen this way, of course.
Some children have loving parents who support and nurture them. Some children have parents who are still awake enough to see their beautiful souls for who they truly are and are willing to help them to become who they are meant to be – not who the parent needs or wants them to be. However, for many children, they grow up and become broken souls who will have their own children … and then the broken soul cycle continues.
But, what if it wasn’t this way? What if more people stopped the cycles of soul brokenness? What if more children grew up in homes where they were supported? What if more children were encouraged to love, meditate/pray, create, sing, dance, get out in nature, invent and investigate things that interest them … all while they are still connected to their Divinity?
What if we did this instead of forcing them to be what they are not? What if we did this instead of forcing them to be more like us? What if we did this instead of forcing them to be heartless robots who feel nothing and only do what they are told? Can you imagine what kind of innovation could come from that? I think you and I could only glimpse the possibilities!
How I KNOW
You might wonder how I know this. Well, I’ve had some experience with children. I was the oldest of five children. My first job out of high school was working in a day care center. When I was in college, I wanted to be a teacher. I couldn’t afford to finish my degree, and I have found more important things to teach. 😉 However, I have always seen more in those little minds than others were capable of seeing. I have always understood them in a way others didn’t. We bonded differently. I always thought it was because I was more their size … I am a small woman, but I think it’s something different. Even babies in restaurants “see” me. What I’m saying is that I know because I KNOW … I “see” them.
I “know” an important and special secret about a young girl in my life that I keep to myself because no one else is ready to know this special truth about her, and this world is not always nice to her. In many ways, she is a lot like me, and I wish I could protect her from this world. But, I don’t have the power to do that. All I can do is know who she is and hold space for the truth of her soul. But, what if there was a place where children like her could live and grow and BE who they are? Miracles would not be out of the question!
My son is also a very special young man. I stopped the cycle of abuse in my family, and I see in him a completely different person than who I was at his age. (At his age, I had already attempted suicide. Love makes a big difference!) My son has known great sadness and loss in his life, but he has also known great love. Although he does have a mother with a chronic illness, he also knows that I would walk through fire to protect him. He has always been an old soul, and he carries such wisdom and balance. I can’t wait to see who he becomes!
And there are others, but some of them are so sad. Some of them are so depressed and pressured by the expectations of their parents and society. They would be so much better off if we had just let them be children instead of pushing them from birth to be better, faster, stronger, smarter than everyone else. Just let them be who they are … because that’s who they are meant to be!
If you find that you have not been able to end the cycle of abuse or soul brokenness in your family, the first step you need to take is to forgive yourself because you need to understand that cycles come from somewhere. You didn’t learn this all on your own. If you are going to forgive yourself, then you need to ask for help … see a therapist, go to a support group, maybe both. Admitting to yourself that there is a cycle of brokenness in your family is the first step to healing.
Healing the Inner Child
Even for us adults who are all grown up, it is not too late for us to connect with our Divine selves. In Psychology, we are taught there are three parts of the self … the ego, id and super ego. I’m going to explain something similar to you. I have found within myself a similar understanding of a trinity … the ego is one part. The ego is the part of self that likes to talk and speaks by saying, “I think …”. This is the kind of ego that is not necessarily “egocentric” but interacts with the world around you, collecting information.
The second aspect of this trinity is a primitive child. This aspect is more primal and can even seem to have an animal associated with it. It speaks more in symbols, dreams and gut reactions. This part of us feels joy and love; it can even desire things that don’t make sense. It is our animal nature. This is the part of us that Carl Jung called our shadow self. It can store deep and forgotten memories and unconscious personality traits. If you have a wounded inner child, this is the part you may need to heal.
When I first met my primitive child self, I was talking on the phone to someone. I had no idea what was happening – only that I was having glimpses of a vision of a young girl breaking out from behind a brick wall. She was peeking out of the darkness. She eventually broke out, standing there inside my mind with a pile of bricks around her feet. I know why it happened that talking to that person broke her out, but then he ended up hurting me … her, so she went away.
The next version of her that visited me was six years old, and she was terrified. She will not speak to anyone but me now, but I figured out how to begin healing her. I figured out what broke my six year old self … how I was shamed and told I was bad. Part of it was carrying the lie that I was evil because my hair was blonde.
I started talking to my six year old self, reassuring her that she was not evil or bad. I started playing with her, helping her to have fun and experience joy. I let her color and paint. The last time my family went out west, we visited an ice cream shop in the Venetian (Las Vegas). The little girl in my heart really wanted this beautiful pink unicorn … so I bought it, and I carried it around the house the whole rest of the time we were out there because that was what she wanted. I never had stuff like that when I was a kid. I never had My Little Ponies or any of the toys my friends had. It might sound like a stupid thing, but it was part of my healing, and I’m sharing it with you because I want you to understand that nothing is stupid if it feels like it’s healing for you. Honestly! It was a really cute unicorn! <3
And, honestly, I truly do believe that if more of those who are broken started to honor and heal their own inner child, then they would understand the truth I am speaking about honoring their own children!
The third aspect of our own trinity is our Divine self, which many of you probably call your higher self. It’s that part of you that connects with the Divine. I have discovered this amazing Truth about my own self that I am still trying to wrap my head around … my higher self has been leaving me clues for years, some of which are in the extended descriptions I wrote for the angel cards years ago, but only by healing my primal child am I able to connect all of myself (my personal trinity) and fully grasp deeper meanings that were hidden there all along. Makes me wonder what could have been had I never been broken in the first place … though I wouldn’t be here in this place to tell you how important this message is, right?
Saving the World
For those who want to make the world a better place, I think the answer is so very obvious and simple. If you want to save the world, save the children! We need to put our energy into things that matter. Do everything we can to ensure that every child born into this world feels real unconditional love from at least one person in their life and that they feel some level of safety and security. I know it won’t happen overnight, and I know it’s probably not possible to help every last child on the planet, but every child saved is one life changed.
One life changed could be one miracle made.
You never know what the future could hold for a child who is given a REAL chance at LIFE. Think about it.
Wishing You All Strength, True Wisdom, Blessings and Love,
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