This is a guest post by Valerie where she answers a reader’s question …
“I was wondering if you could help me understand how to forgive myself. My childhood was not that great, and I try my best to be a good mother to my children but make a lot of mistakes. I’ve read a lot of books on how to be a better parent, and I’m doing much better, but I can’t get over the things I’ve done in the past. My children have forgiven me, but I can’t forgive myself.” ~ Anna
Here is what I got from the angels in response to your question as to how you can forgive yourself:
“Realize there’s nothing to forgive. You’re always doing the best you can, so how can you expect more of yourself than that? Who’s ideal are you trying to live up to? The past is the past and you can’t change it. What you can do is learn the lessons from the circumstances with which you’ve been presented, and then move on. If someone else had done the things you have, would you be able to forgive her? If yes, then you need to be as compassionate and generous with your forgiveness with yourself as you would be with another.”
Bethany – “When you take excellent care of yourself, everybody benefits. Give yourself a relaxing treat today such as a massage, sea salt bath, or pedicure.”
Stop being so hard on yourself. Treat yourself with the same kindness you so readily treat others.
Grace and Antoinette – “To help heal the situation, see the other person’s point of view with compassion.”
In this case, they are suggesting you may find it easier to forgive yourself if you take a third person’s perspective. See yourself as you would one of your children, your best friend, or someone else you love. Be as understanding and forgiving of yourself as you would be with them.
Omega – “Victory! Your desire is coming to fruition. Keep up the good work!”
Instead of putting so much attention on those few things you feel you’ve done “wrong” in the past, focus on all of the things you’ve done that you’re proud of. Remember, nothing is ever “good” or “bad,” “right” or “wrong” – only your judgment makes it so. Release the judgments so you can see the light and love within you. When you can do that, you’ll finally be able to forgive yourself.
This post was brought to you today by Valerie using Doreen Virtue’s Messages From Your Angels Oracle Cards.
Valerie is a gifted Angel Psychic and Card Reader who once offered her services here through Angel Messenger. However, Valerie no longer offers these services.