This isn’t what I had planned to write about when I walked into my office this morning, but I have to let this out before I can think about anything else.  A few weeks ago, I was overjoyed to find out that a friend of the family was pregnant.  Everyone was so happy for her, but she lost the baby this past Saturday morning.  She lost her baby on the day before Mother’s Day.

When I was pregnant with my son, he was very late.  He was supposed to be born on May 1st but didn’t arrive until May 17th.  I always joke with him that my first Mother’s Day would have been much better if he’d actually been here, but what has happened with my friend really puts this in perspective for me.  I wasn’t very happy to be so very pregnant and missing out on my baby that Mother’s Day, but I was blessed to know that my baby was safe inside my belly.


Photo Credit to Dad (who may have also helped in the creation of this design) 😉

It’s usually around this time of year that I start to feel sad that I will not be having any more children, but I am so blessed to have one. He made me this beautiful daisy you can see in the picture.  He made this for me because daisies are my favorite flower.  I’ve talked before about how wonderfully sweet and intelligent my son is, and I am so blessed to have him in my life. 

For all those out there who are mothers, remember the blessings in your life.  It’s so easy to look back and wish we had done things differently or our situations were better, but for those of us who are moms, we really are blessed. 

For those who have lost children, my heart goes out to you.  Please know that your children are still with you and watching over you.  Sometimes I see that these children will try to come in another way … as a grandchild, a niece, nephew or some other way.  But, many times, these innocent and loving beings simply act as guardian angels to the parents they were not able to physically manifest for.  There are many reasons that a child may not come to term, spiritually and physically, and many times we never learn exactly why.  The fact is, however, that no reason will ever take away the pain of losing a child. 

My heart breaks for my friend, and I thank God every day for the children in my life.  I do only have one child myself, but I also have a beautiful niece and lots of children in the community that my husband and I are an active part of.  In my heart, they are all my children.  They are all blessings.

Love and Blessings,


3 replies
  1. Rev. Sheri
    Rev. Sheri says:

    Thank you for writing, Melanie. I can’t imagine your pain. As a child, I always dreaded Father’s Day because I didn’t have a father. I had a step-dad, but my real father never admitted he was my father. My mom even took him to court, but blood tests were inadmissible in court in the late 1970’s. I always felt like part of me didn’t deserve to have a father and never would, but I did eventually fill that void years later with an amazing husband and a father-in-law that loves me dearly. Actually, his first name is the same as my real father’s first name. I kind-of feel like the universe was making a point in saying my father-in-law is my replacement dad for the one that didn’t work out.

    Don’t lose hope, Melanie. I know your heart is broken right now, and my own heart breaks for you, too. I will never understand how some of the most wonderful people have trouble bringing a life into this world, and then there are children who feel lost and unloved by other parents who had no trouble but shouldn’t have been given such a precious gift. There’s a reason I was born to the situation I was born into, and I’m sure there’s reason for your journey as well. It took me a long time to find the reason my journey was the way it was, but I hope sharing this with you will give you some hope. <3

  2. Melanie
    Melanie says:

    Thank you so much for this lovely post. I really appreciate the sentiment. Yesterday, Mother’s Day was so dark for me. I lost my second baby a month ago today. The pain is unbearable. It was my second miscarriage in a year and I fear I will never have a child and I am heart broken. Your site always offers such love and hope. Thank you for all you do.


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