This is a guest post by Valerie where she answers a reader’s question …

“I was wondering if you could help me understand how to forgive myself. My childhood was not that great, and I try my best to be a good mother to my children but make a lot of mistakes. I’ve read a lot of books on how to be a better parent, and I’m doing much better, but I can’t get over the things I’ve done in the past. My children have forgiven me, but I can’t forgive myself.”  ~ Anna

Dear Anna,

Here is what I got from the angels in response to your question as to how you can forgive yourself:

“Realize there’s nothing to forgive.  You’re always doing the best you can, so how can you expect more of yourself than that?  Who’s ideal are you trying to live up to?  The past is the past and you can’t change it.  What you can do is learn the lessons from the circumstances with which you’ve been presented, and then move on.  If someone else had done the things you have, would you be able to forgive her?  If yes, then you need to be as compassionate and generous with your forgiveness with yourself as you would be with another.”

Next I pulled cards from the “Messages from Your Angels” deck and these are the ones that came up for you:

Bethany – “When you take excellent care of yourself, everybody benefits.  Give yourself a relaxing treat today such as a massage, sea salt bath, or pedicure.”

Stop being so hard on yourself.  Treat yourself with the same kindness you so readily treat others. Read More→