Relationship Question: “… We get along great as friends and are very close. He’s very romantic and sweet, intelligent, and creative. … But I have a hard time committing to the relationship. Some things are unfulfilled, so I worry about it a lot. There are issues with me being jealous at times. He’s a … teacher and has a lot of attractive female friends. And he’s a very social, warm person. For a couple of years, it was he who told me he couldn’t be serious with me, that it wouldn’t work (tho he still dated me). But for the past few years, after I’ve tried to break up with him several times, he says really wants to be with me. It’s hard for me to accept the age difference and feel OK about that, I struggle with jealousy, and the final problem is our sexual relationship. We’re very attracted to each other, but he has an STD that is not curable (though he took energetic remedies from a reputable source and says it is healed), so we do not have intercourse, or when we do, it’s scary for me, and besides that, I think the age difference leaves something to be desired for me in this area of my life. Could you give me any advice? …”
Well, I have to say that just in the way your question is worded, you already know the answer to this question. I would bet your friends have given you the same advice I’m about to give. It seems obvious to me that you are unhappy with your relationship. If the age difference still bothers you now, it will continue to do so and maybe even more so. You do have a strong connection with this man, that is for sure. However, a soul-mate connection does not necessary mean a “stay with me for the rest of your life” connection. You have shared lifetimes before, and your soul vibrates to the same frequency as his. I think it’s time to do some soul searching and think about what you really want here. You need to know whether or not you truly love him in this way, in this lifetime. You do love each other, but how far does that love go? I can’t give you the answer to that question, but I can tell you a decision needs to be made. If you’re not sure, you need to stop having intercourse with him immediately. Energetic remedies can be useful for some things, but the STD is not gone and is contagious. You will get it without protection. Be careful!
You crave this man’s energy and what he represents to you as a teacher. He is a good friend to you and you to him. If you were my friend, I would tell you that it’s time to test how good of a friend he is. He needs to give you time to figure out how you feel – without input from him. He is a good man, but he’s not the only good man out there. I also believe he may be manipulating you to some extent, whether he realizes it or not. I would hate to see you stay in this relationship for the wrong reasons. If you’re afraid there isn’t another man out there, don’t be.
I hope this helps,
Sheri
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