“I truly enjoy reading your site and also the free angel readings too… As for me, I learned a lot about Angels, but my problem seems to be I always keep getting stuck thinking about the past due to my love life, when I know I should let it all go. I guess I been hurt too many times and didn’t have closure. I have let it go, but it seems to keep coming back to me. I have this fear of going backwards when I truly want to move forward. I don’t understand why I can’t move ahead. I wonder if this has anything to do with my past life? Can you help me out with this? Or is this part of my life lesson?
On the road of life, you can never go back – only forward. What you have been through is most definitely a life lesson. Those nagging little events, ideas and situations that seem to repeat themselves time and time again are usually life lessons. However, we are never alone and can always ask for help. 
You should be commended for moving forward from this past, but it sounds like the past may not want to let you go. This is not so unusual; it happens. You have moved on, but someone from your past is trying to pull you back. This is when you dig in your heals and refuse to go.
This probably does have something to do with a past life as well. The person, people or situation which continues to pull on your energy has probably been duplicated in a previous life time. Maybe the person is a soulmate to you, but it’s important to understand what a soulmate truly is. When a person is your soulmate, it simply means that person has lived at least one lifetime with you before. He/she may play an important role in this lifetime, but that doesn’t mean you are bound to that person in any way. Unfortunately, they might not have gotten the same memo and may think they are bound to you, pulling your energy back with all the power they have. So, how do you stop them from tugging on your shirt sleeves? You could take off your shirt – figuratively speaking, of course.
While it is important that we learn what we’re meant to from life lessons, this sounds like it’s a little more than that. It sounds like you need to learn about pulling cords. Many people call it cutting cords, but I prefer to call it pulling cords or even releasing cords. When you cut a cord, you leave the root in place which allows the cord to grow back even stronger than before. When you pull a cord, you force it out – root and all. But, if you’re truly ready to let go of the past, you should be able to willingly release it, therefore letting it go to be transmuted into the light that is our universe. I’ve added several articles below that will give your more information and guidance on how to proceed. Just remember the difference between “cutting” versus pulling or releasing.
Cutting Cords – Power Attunements
Daily OM – A Liberating Goodbye (cutting cords)
About.com – Cutting Cords to Toxic Relationships
Practical Skills on Energy Cords
Let it go … Meditation for Cutting Energy Cords
Sending you light on your path,
Sheri
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Thanks, Robin. I’m glad this posting was helpful to you. Releasing the cords makes a huge difference. I hope you have a year full of blessings, too!
Wow!!! This was a really good one for me. There was a new point – the difference between cutting cords and pulling or releasing them. I can’t wait to do this. I learn a lot from your postings – thank you for all that you do. Wishing that God sends you a great year full of blessings.