“Dear Rev Sheri, Do we really have soulmates in our lives? Would I know if I was with my soulmate? I have friend that told me that we do have soulmates in our life. Well if that is the case I have been with a man for 23yr’s now … is he my soulmate or will there be someone else that will come along in my life. This a every big question for me at this time in my life. Please help me.” – Valary
Dear Valary,
Yes, we do have soulmates in our lives, but we can and usually do have more than one. A soulmate is simply a soul you have lived a previous lifetime with, and that soul is familiar to you because you knew it before. When we find a soulmate, the relationship is usually described with sayings like, “It feels like I’ve known him forever.” The relationship feels comfortable and you may fall in love very quickly. However, we also have soulmates that may not have been good people for us before, and those relationships can be just the opposite. For instance, I once had a boss who was absolutely cruel and hateful to me, and there was no earthly explanation. Everyone else I had ever worked for always loved me, but this woman just had it out for me. I later realized there was a reason for that; she was repeating a pattern from a previous lifetime we’d shared where she had persecuted me. (I can’t say I was surprised by that revelation.)
Soulmates can be children and friends as well. Sometimes they come into our lives only for short periods of time, when they are most needed. Even if you marry a soulmate, it doesn’t always mean that relationship will stand the test of time. As things change in our lives, our purposes may change. I’ve known people who’ve married a soulmate to find, years later, that person chooses a destructive path. When a soulmate partner decides to take up a life of drinking, for example, it is not necessarily in the best interest of the other soulmate to follow the one they love down that road. That doesn’t mean that everyone married to an alcoholic should get a divorce, though. Each circumstance is different.
I think the real question you want to know here is whether or not you are meant to stay with your husband. Your soul is strongly seeking change, and it would be much easier if you knew you would find love again. I always tell people not to make a decision like this based on what might be in the future. The grass always looks greener, but you first need to make a decision about your current circumstances without outside interference. Keeping your head clear of what might or might not be will help you to make a decision without having regret down the road. Instead, you need to honestly ask yourself whether or not you are happy. Is this the life you want to continue to live? If not, why? What can be changed? Sometimes little changes can make a big difference. Love can look much different after years of living life and the experiences therein. Life changes us. How has it changed you? How has it changed your husband? Are you still on compatible paths? These are the questions you should be asking yourself, and it is best to answer those questions yourself – without outside influence from family, friends, or whomever. You are the one that will have to live with this decision.
Looking at the numerology of you and your husband, you are highly compatible. You’re a natural leader with the heart of a true lightworker. Your husband seeks and adapts to change and has a creative side. I don’t see his energy is completely balanced and in line with what it should be, though, so it’s possible he may not be so easily adaptable. As for the energy of the years you both are currently in, I would think that any endings or changes to be made in your relationship will likely happen before your next birthdays. You are in a year of change, and he is in a year of endings. You will want to change things, and some of your ideas may be a bit drastic. Be careful of creating too much chaos in your life. Your husband’s spiritual goal for this time period is to let go of things that are no longer working; he is spiritually “cleaning house”.
The future I see for you is uncertain, probably because your decision has not yet been made. However, if you and your husband move forward together and stay together after the next six months, your relationship will likely grow stronger. Over the next six months, your desire for change and your husband’s desire to let go of things that are no longer working will grow stronger. Your decision will be made during this time. You will know if you’re trying to fight something that’s meant to be because fighting it will make you very unhappy. The right decision will feel more natural.
Wishing you strength and clarity,
Sheri
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